As an avid music fan, it’s a tough decision. I love so many bands, but to actually get the opportunity to play in one of them and hope you don’t ruin what they already had… that’s a bigger issue.
But, with all that aside, I’d probably want to play in Converge the most. Kurt Ballou was the biggest influence on me back when I was playing guitar in a band, and to play alongside him would not only be fantastic, it would also be the world’s greatest learning experience. He has so much knowledge about guitar, guitar tone, and amplification, that’d it be just simply an awesome experience.
I think it’s safe to say anyone who you were romantically involved with at some point has changed your life in one way or another. The longer the relationship, the more impact they will have on you in the long run.
For people that have changed my life, I would probably say my Dad. Cliche, I know… but not for the reasons you’d expect. We didn’t get along very well in the last years of his life, but when I was growing up, he taught me the power of music and championed computers and video games for me. The latter two things have had a huge impact on me, but nothing like how the former has. Music - again, a cliche - has changed the way I think, act, and live. Playing guitar was a huge diversion in my life and moved me from one trajectory to another. My Dad and Mom were the two people who bought me my first guitar, a red Squier Stratocaster. From then on, I knew that I would always be playing guitar.
And, of course, reflecting on who changed your life and who has helped you along the way is a powerful thing. Everyone should do a little more of that.
I think a lot of people answer that question too realistically. For me, I’d like to think that in ten years I’ll be in my “ideal situation”. What is that? I’m not even sure.
I made the oft-maligned decision earlier this year to pursue my education past my BA and pursue my MA. Where will that get me? Who knows. There’s no way to tell, but if I had it my way, I’d be teaching ESL or Linguistics at a community college in California and keeping up on my hobbies.
But, well, it’s hard to say. I can tell you that when I was younger, I probably imagined myself at 37 in a nice house somewhere, working in software development and finding hobbies to keep up in. That obviously isn’t going to pan out. And that’s okay.
Your late twenties are a huge transition period, and to make the most of it is easy to decide but even harder to execute on. So far, I’d like to be honest with myself and admit that I’m especially behind the curve but I’m working diligently to return to form. What that ‘form’ actually *is* seems to be another question altogether.
Yeah! JP is one of my close friends and I just recently got in touch with the original founder of Capistrano, Travis. Not sure where our drummer Jeff is, nobody seems to have any idea about that.
It’s good to keep relationships and try to stay in touch, even as you and your friends start to take completely different paths in life. But, that’s unfortunately not always possible.
I still play music often, it’s just now more of a hobby than a budding career.
I love being only a fan of music now. I get to enjoy records for what they are versus if I played on them or if I could have played on them. For example, my friends in The American Scene released a phenomenal record last week called “Haze”. Being able to just listen to it as a fan has been great. That kind of thing is special and something I wasn’t able to do back in 2006.
But, it’s not without its tough moments. I miss performing, and I definitely miss the community of kids working hard to break through the ceiling. I’m able to kind of curb that feeling by supporting my friends (like The American Scene) and recording my own tunes (like my project, I Was Given Feet To Follow You) and performing occasionally.
All in all, it was a difficult transition but a necessary one. It’s been quite a ride and I’m glad I was able to keep driving through it all.